Broken family may be defined when a parent left his partner and children and cling to another partner. This may be easily said that the person has left one’s family and built another family. It happens because of various and unavoidable reasons and we cannot confine only to a particular reason. It is a reality that cannot be denied that it breaks the family as an institution – the societal unit and cell of the community. Thus when one belongs to this institution, one cannot help but he or she is also broken in one’s personality.
Effects of being broken
Let us focus on the person who is part of the broken family. That person is in one way or another is broken. There is a leak or crack in one’s personality, an imbalance self. It affects too one’s perspective and principles too. The worst is that it affects in dealing with another person the way we deal that hurts others as well. Here the hurt dominates, and so it blinds him from not hurting others. Unless one is ready to face and figure out the source of this hurt, one cannot move on in his life but continually hurting innocent and wonderful people especially when the subject of conversation is about family.
Remedy
Only in being conscious of one’s brokenness can help remedy the situation, and then healing begins to take place. But being conscious is not enough. One needs to exert extraordinary effort in getting healed by accepting the reality. It will be of help when one develops a positive attitude and value towards human relationship especially family relationship. The consequence is this that wounded person becomes defender and protector of family.
Is it possible?
Yes, it is possible, even the wounded or broken person did not experience having a complete family; so long our willingness to live in the realm of possibility is present. Our brokenness must not hinder us from taking good care of others, lest we scar others with our own wounds. Just live life with acceptance, and by treating each other as brothers and sisters, and the older ones as if he or she is one’s mother and father. If one strives and believes in making this messy world like heaven (like St. Therese did), why can’t the broken?
